Sunday, June 25, 2017
Tuesday, May 16, 2017
Blame is such a heavy word, and there is plenty to go around in the diabetes community.
Doctor blame patients for not being in "control." I have not experienced this with my doctor; he is great! But I read almost daily of someone whose doctor or cde has shamed them in some way for their management (or lack thereof, in the healthcare providers mind). Might this be why people give up? Maybe some grace and gentle guidance would be more effective than blame and shame?
Patients blame themselves for "mistakes." We all make them. How could we not? Our pancreases don't make insulin, so every bite of food we eat must be calculated and matched with insulin. Food labels can be off as much as 20%. Glucose meters can be off as much as 20%. Activity, stress levels, illness, and many other things can affect glucose levels and insulin absorption. We make mistakes. We have to treat ourselves with kindness and grace, and move on.
Parents blame themselves when their child with diabetes has high or low numbers. Imagine having a young child, perhaps young enough that they don't speak yet. Now imagine that you have to guess how much food that child will eat at EVERY meal and snack. If they don't eat it all, their blood sugar goes low. If they eat more, they need more insulin. It's a constant balancing act. Mistakes happen. Parents need to be kind to themselves as well.
Parents also tend to blame themselves for passing on the genes that cause the disease. I know my mom even mentioned that when I was diagnosed with type 1 at age 45. I stopped her in her tracks....blame does no good.
Society blames us for our disease. This is a big one. Whether the patient has type 1 or 2, or any other variant, we are NOT to blame for our disease. There are strong genetic factors involved, and the experts don't even fully understand it.
One of the saddest and most infuriating cases of blame are when my fellow type 1 folks throw our type 2 friends under the bus. It's not right, and it's not fair. Like it or not, we are all in this diabetes game together. We must be kind to other. Without kindness and compassion, we start treating each other as less than human.
Monday, May 15, 2017
Probably the most unexpected thing was my diagnosis at age 45....the 3rd diagnosis in our house in less than 4 years.
In everyday life, we have learned to expect the unexpected. We try to prepare for all possibilities. We go through the checklist before we leave the house....insulin, pen needles, snacks, meter, test strips. We're ready for the highs and lows.
Probably the hardest thing to manage is the fact that our 3 bodies sometimes react very differently to the same foods and situations. We are each learning our bodies and how they respond to different things. It's a life long learning process.
Some of the things that keep it fun with so much diabetes in the house is watching for matching blood sugar numbers on our Dexcoms. This is the closest to triplets we've ever been! Maybe one day I'll get that unexpected surprise!
Saturday, March 18, 2017
Said goodbye to our last grandparent. We lost Jason's grandma last April. She was the last grandparent between us.
Dad threw surprise birthday party for me and mom. Our birthdays are 1 week apart. My parents are the best! (That's my sweet friend in the pic, not my mom.)
I went to Chicago on a school trip to check out a program with a team of teachers and administrators. Flew for the first time with d, and the first time in quite a few years.
Got used to diet DP. This was a biggie. I wasn't sure I'd be able to adjust, but the thought of drinking water only for the rest of my life was a terrible prospect.
Ran concession stand at the pool all summer, with the help of our boys. This us our vacation money.
Met close friend's kiddo at hospital after he was in a car accident. I could get there faster than my friend, as they were flying the kiddo there by helicopter.
Helped with a benefit volleyball tournament for a sweet friend with cervical cancer.
Started year 22 of teaching.
Celebrated Seth's 4th diaversary.
Met Laura Wilkinson at a coaching clinic.
Went on Christmas cruise with Jason and the boys. I'm still working on a separate post for that.
Helped coach our girls and boys swim teams to district championships.
Multiple vehicles woes. At one point during the year, we had one working vehicle for 4 adults trying to get to work/school in 3 different directions. Thankfully, friends and family helped us get where we needed to be!
Wednesday, January 11, 2017
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