Today's prompt: There is an old saying that states “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me”. I'm willing to bet we've all disagreed with this at some point, and especially when it comes to diabetes. Many advocate for the importance of using non-stigmatizing, inclusive and non-judgmental language when speaking about or to people with diabetes. For some, they don't care, others care passionately. Where do you stand when it comes to “person with diabetes” versus “diabetic”, or “checking” blood sugar versus “testing”, or any of the tons of other examples? Let's explore the power of words, but please remember to keep things respectful.
I've written about the "second language" of diabetes before. We speak in lots of acronyms and phrases that have a totally different meaning outside of the diabetes world. It really is like learning a whole new vocabulary, and it takes a while to get the hang of it all.
There are also words that are very polarizing. For me personally, using the word "diabetic" is not a problem. It's an adjective, a descriptor. It doesn't explain my whole being any more than teacher, mom, wife, brown-eyed, aging, etc. It's one adjective. At the same time, I try to be respectful of those who are sensitive and view it as a label rather than an adjective. They absolutely have as much right to their opinion as I do to mine.
In our house, we use check and test pretty equally. I understand why some choose not to say test, and if I had a small child with diabetes I'd likely make that choice as well.
There are probably many other examples, but none of them are hot buttons for me. The real hot button for me is when people use diabetes as the butt of the joke, blaming people for their diabetes. Those people tend to justify it, saying it's about type 2. That just perpetuates more myths and does harm to the diabetes community as a whole. Now, do we joke about diabetes in our house? All the time. But it's among ourselves, and not in a blaming/shaming way. It helps us cope with our disease so that we can continue to KDA.
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Yes, you are so right! I'm not too bothered by the terms people use but when diabetes becomes the butt of a joke, I get livid!
ReplyDeleteI've read your blog every day this week and still not figured out what KDA means. I googled it and found things like Kentucky Dental Assoc, atomic mass unit kilodalton, and Kansas Dept of Agriculture. I guessed "Knocked Down Again" with it being the 3rd diabetes diagnosis in the family. But I didn't see that meaning in an online slang dictionary. So please share!
ReplyDeleteThanks for reading! It means Kick Diabetes' Ass. When a dear friend was going through cancer treatment several years ago, our rally cry to her was KCA. She passed away 5 days before my son was diagnosed, and I asked those friends if KDA would be an appropriate thing to use for my son (and to honor the memory of my friend. It's been a while since I've defined it in a post, so thanks for asking!
DeleteI'm glad I asked because that is fantastic and certainly makes for a great blog name!
DeleteThank you!! I added a link to the definition on today's post. Thanks to your question, I'll link to that definition on every post from now on (provided I remember. Haha).
DeleteIt really is infuriating! Type doesn't matter, it's not a joke.
ReplyDeleteVery similar sentiments from my side.. I am not too bothered about the words used, but if they are used to intentionally hurt someone, or as a joke, it bothers me. I even heard a commercial for a comedian on the radio here yesterday.. he was making of his size and diabetes.. My son has Type 1, and we do not have Type 2 in our family, but my heart hurt. Love your blog name!
ReplyDeleteIt hurts my heart to hear as well. Thanks you!
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